Charlie. Ra-Ra. Putting books up as asked. Bed Time.
There's so many things I love about this picture.
This one.
I really feel like I 'get him'.
I know what makes him tick.
And what doesn't.
He's my heart.
Mothers intuition I suppose.
Here lately we're having a listening issue and a 'NO!' issue.
These are 2 things that I will.not.tolerate.
He is a GOOD GREAT KID, but he's 2 and he likes to test his boundaries.
We've tried time out.
We've tried spanking {a little- I really don't think it's the answer}.
Neither work. They only make him mad.
I got an email on 9 disciplining secrets and I'd say we already knew them, but practicing is so different.
A few nights ago he would not get out of the tub and I'd asked him a zillion times to get out of the tub for.the.love.of.all.things.holy.get.out!
No go. He wanted to 'schwim'. He wouldn't pull the drain up. He kept turning the water on.
I was TRYING to give him the opportunity to do the right thing and listen.
Normally, I might have raised my voice, spanked his leg (lightly, but enough to get his attention) and ended in a hissy fit- from us both.
But then that email clicked back in memory.
After several worthless attempts, I said 'that's ok, we're not reading any books tonight.'
He stood up.
He got out.
He asked for books.
I was firm. I held my ground.
We did lotion, jammas, kissed Daddy and said our prayers.
But no books.
But you know what, IT WORKED!
I didn't have to holler. I didn't have to spank. I didn't have to threaten time out.
Taking something he loves away, if only for a night, did the trick.
And speaking low, calm and direct was so much more effective in getting him to listen.
I felt very powerful. Very proud of myself, and of him.
Even though he hadn't listened, he accepted his consequences.
And he remembers exactly what he did and exactly what happened as a result.
This is SO MUCH MORE EFFECTIVE!
And LESS STRESSFUL!
And now, if I ask him to do something, and he does it, he says 'I'm yistening mommy, I yistening!'
I'm sure there will be times that require a different discipline approach, but for right now, that's whats working.